My husbands niece is getting married next June. We only learned that she was engaged in the summer, and when we spoke with her during her visit on Labor Day weekend it sounded like she and her fiance weren’t planning on getting married for a couple of years, but surprise – they’re getting married in June and it’s going to be in Mexico.
My husband has never really liked the idea of a Mexican vacation so he’s not so big on the idea of going to Mexico even for his nieces wedding. Plus … we don’t have a lot of extra money these days thanks to all of the temporary lay off that Chris has been going through at work. Still … I’ve been keeping my eye out for travel deals just in case we change our minds about going to the wedding.
We apparently have until April to make a final decision about attending the wedding, so we’ll see what happens.
I think when people choose to get married at a resort where everyone has to travel to attend, they are far more understanding if you can’t make it. I think it will be alright if you don’t attend, especially if you throw a few extra bucks in the gift envelope.
I think it depends on how close your husband is to his niece to determine whether you should go or not. If they have a closer relationship, then you should definitely go, regardless of if he doesn’t like the idea of going to Mexico, and you can always shop around to get good deals on flights and accommodation.
If he isn’t that close to her, then perhaps tell her politely that you are unable to make it, and then send her a nice gift.