My sister-in-law is driving me nuts. She’s been calling just about every week for the last month or so to ask my husband and I to go up to their trailer for a weekend.
Now normally I love getting holiday invitations but …. I don’t like their trailer … or well the area it’s in. It’s in some kind of members only Lutherian ranch. I don’t have anything against that of course, but the few times I’ve been up there I found it boring and the place had so many rules you couldn’t do anything!
It’s not that I’m a city girl. I love the city life, but when I was growing up we had a cottage that we went to almost every weekend and when we were weren’t at the cottage on holidays we were traveling around North America camping, staying in trailer parks with our own trailer or cabins … so I’m a little bit country. LOL
I guess it just comes down to the fact that I don’t like where their trailer is or the fact that when my husband his brother in law get together the party begins! Oh yeah, they like to drink together and it’s like taking care of two little boys. The last time they had a really good drunk together was when I tripped on a curb at a friends house and really damaged my knee and they just laughed at me instead of taking me to the hospital! (It took my knee 8 months to heal! so yeah, it was damaged).
Maybe you can see why I’m leary of having these two get together … somehow I’m the one who suffers. LOL
So far we’ve been able to turn them down because we’ve had other plans or my Crohn’s has been acting up (truth!), but we’re running out of excuses … how do I turn her down for good without hurting her feelings?
Do you ever get holiday or party invitations that you just have to turn down because there’s no way you want to attend?
Keep it real. Next time she calls and asks I think you should say very quickly before you even have time to think “Its boring up there! Our husbands get drunk and that isn’t fun for me!” Then you get it all out there and the ball is in her court to make a proposal that you might be interested in. You could also offer a counter-proposal, I bet she gets bored up there too.
Either tell her the truth or/and talk to your husband about his behaviour. We all have a few drinks, sometimes more than we should but when it affects those around us……
Hmm .. maybe you should subtly let her have a look at your blog post, then there is no need to tell her as this tells all?
Lol – But then again that may be the sheepish way out.
Even though the truth hurts sometimes, it always can help get a lot off your chest and will make you feel better. You should just let her know about all the things you are concerned about with taking that trip and give her a reasonable explanation as to why you just don’t deem it suitable for your likes.
It’s rare we get invites, and feel really bad if we have to turn one down when we wanted to go.
I don’t blame you – I don’t think I would go either.