We’ve had a South Korean student staying with us for over a month now, and while I realized there were a number of differences between our North American habits and his Korean culture I didn’t think it was too much of a problem. However, Thursday evening I discovered just how vast the cultural gap really is.
I was in the washroom and I happened to look down at the garbage can and to my horror I saw used streaked toilet paper sitting in it. What the heck? So I walked back downstairs and met up with my husband in the kitchen. “Go upstairs and look in the garbage and tell me if that’s what I think it is, would you?”
Chris looked at me strangely, and I said ” I think it’s used T.P., go look.” So off he went to check the garbage can. From upstairs I heard him say ” Oh my god it is!” and “Oh, that’s gross!” Meanwhile the boarder is in his room right next door to the washroom, and while I’m sure he must have heard Chris I have no idea if he clued into what Chris was talking about at the time.
Chris came back down stairs into the living room where I was waiting for him and he said with a most horrified look on his face “that’s just crazy!”. I tried to reassure him that it was probably something cultural. Gross to us, but probably not crazy. We decided to speak with him after dinner about it. Well, we actually decided that I would conveniently leave the room so that Chris could talk to him man to man, which would probably be less embarrassing for our boarder.
Since our boarder moved in over a month ago I must admit that I have been seeing neatly folded, but thick bundles of T.P. or what I thought might be a lot of Kleenex in the waste basket. I wondered about it, but then he got a cold about two weeks ago and I guess I figured it was from him blowing his nose (with a lot of t.p.?). I guess I was wrong, huh?
My husband had a very short talk with our tenant while I was out of the room. I don’t know exactly what was said but when I asked Chris how he reacted he said that he’d apologized and stated that, that is what he did at home. So it was cultural after all. I did a Google search. Here’s a strange one for you “Korean puts used toilet paper in garbage instead of toilet” to see what I might find, and the search did confirm my borders habit.
This might explain why I’ve been seeing ants in the washroom upstairs.
We’ve only had ants in the house once since we moved in and they were in the kitchen. They were coming in from the enclosed back porch where we kept the recycling. We solved this problem by keeping the recycling outside during the warmer months when ants and other bugs are active. So I was surprised to see ants in the house again this year, and upstairs of all places.
Our boarder carries a knapsack with him when he goes to school. He also smokes. So I thought maybe he might be bringing his knapsack outside with him, and placing it on the ground, when he took smoke breaks at school and accidentally bring home some extra passengers in the form of ants as a result. However they are getting in, I now know what’s been attracting them to the bathroom. Time to set some ant traps out.
We’ve been trying to get to know our boarder and spend some time with him each evening when we sit down to dinner and occasionally watch T.V. together afterwards. We’ve asked him if the food we are serving tasted good or if there is something else he might prefer. He always states that the food is good and that he likes it, but I’m not sure if he’s just being polite or if he’s being truthful. I know my cooking is excellent pretty good, but the food we eat in North America is quite different than what he ate in South Korea. The only thing that we’ve discovered that he doesn’t really care for is asparagus.
We have also tried to ask him about what life is like in South Korea, and while we get little snippets of information here and there we haven’t heard enough to discover how different it is from life in Canada.
If there are any people from, or, who are originally from South Korea who can give me some more information on Korean culture and it’s differences from North American culture I’d appreciate it.
When we asked him about this months rent, on Tuesday, he didn’t seem to know what we were talking about. His English is getting to be fairly good so I’m sure it wasn’t a language barrier that was causing his confusion. He almost seemed to act like he didn’t think he had to pay rent yet, or again. Perhaps he called the agency that put us together the next day and did discover that he needs to pay rent each month, because we finally got the rent on Thursday evening.
The toilet paper stuff really threw us. Do we have any more surprises in store? Please tell me if I do because I’d like to either deal with them before they become an issue or before I get another nasty surprise. I now know that putting used T.P. in the waste basket is something that is commonly done in South Korea, but it was a bit of a culture shock to discover it in my own bathroom! Yuck.
Mandy says
Oh yikes! that’s gross. But like you say, it’s a cultural thing and isn’t frowned upon in their own country. Perhaps it’s even frowned upon to flush it down the loo in South Korea..
It’s interesting, though, to find out things about the way others live.
Mandy
Mr. Fabulous says
I am baffled by that behavior. You’ve got a perfectly good toilet there, you are going to have to flush it anyway…
Live and learn.
He is so NOT coming to my party.
Helen says
Hi Tricia,
Amazing how we are so different, us humans, and yet so alike. If you do a blogger search for Korea (i just did one) you’ll find lot of folks that could probably help you. Sounds like a great adventure for all involved. Good luck with it and enjoy. I’m sure you’ll have some great stories to tell your grandchildren!
Peace…………..
Undercover Angel says
The toilet paper thing is gross, but at least he had a good reason for doing it. It sounds to me like he has as much to learn about our culture as we have to learn about his. I hope he finally starts answering your questions, or you are able to find the answers elsewhere so you will know what to expect. It’s going to be a great adventure for you guys discovering each others cultures…
Vera says
maybe the TP in the waste basket isn’t so much “cultural” but based on circumstances?
i mean, maybe there is much concern with TP clogging the toilet drain, and that is what he wants to avoid: that your toilet overflows because of his used TP clogging it all up. (and it does happen here in my country). another is that some areas in Korea would probably still be using old-fashioned toilets, ones that are just like a small urinal on a hole on the floor and you’d have to squat to use it? one can’t throw TP (used or otherwise) in those.
maybe this s already what you meant when you say “cultural” factors. 🙂
and yeah, i could imagine how grossed out you must have been.
Mama Grouch says
I was an exchange student in Chile and you don’t flush your toilet paper there. It isn’t so much about culture as it is about the plumbing and septic systems. In South America the toilet would back up if you flushed lots of stuff down, so they put it in a covered garbage can next to the toilet.
When we had septic issues here (I had to replace a crushed pipe buried in my yard) we put our paper in the garbage until spring when the ground thawed.
Live and learn new techniques!
mike says
Came here by way of Kimi’s blog. I don’t have a clue about S. Korean culture though.
logtar says
I also agree with Vera and Mama G… it is not cultural but rather kind of plumbing you are used to using.
jane says
I’ve never been to Korea, but I did go to Mexico for 3 weeks in 1989. We had to do exactly what you explained at the house I stayed at. The reason? Their plumbing just wasn’t up to par. It couldn’t handle the paper. I’m guessing that may be why. Another reason might be if in Korea they use a septic tank. When we lived out in the country (10 years ago) we could only use Scott tissue with our septic tank. Any other brand could clog it up.
I doubt if it’s cultural, but more something they were taught, just like we’re taught to flush it.
michele says
Wow tricia,i bet that would stop people from going through
your gabage looking for things to recycle.lol
B says
That is a bit odd but then again, it is a culture thing. Maybe not too many households have running water and hence the reason for throwing said used TP in the trash?
Miss Lady Ma'am says
Wow… That’s… um…..Wow! Can you imagine if you had a toddler, too? That would make for interesting potty training lol
Rita says
In a quandry with our Korean homestay student who’s been here for three weeks, I googled ‘south korea toilet habits’ and found your site. Your experience was EXACTLY the way ours went….first I noticed the bathroom garbage, then I noticed he had a cold, then the stark realisation hit and I dragooned my husband to have a man-to-man with him. I guess it could be worse. And yes, the food thing is a problem as the little he has eaten with us has always been ‘dericious’……what do I serve?